Personal Update: Love

Hello Everybody!


I decided to post another personal update.
The topic is rather sensitive,
but if this post helps even one person,
then I would've fulfilled my goal with it.

So, let's talk about love.

Let's talk about what it really is,
which is not the trendy word that people throw around
to describe their passing feelings for a high quality ink pen
or a multi-colored poncho on sale at a retailer.


It's interesting.
I was watching Dr. Drew's talk show and he said something that stuck with me.
He said, "People confuse intensity for love."
I can't count the number times when I thought I was head over heels in love
because the moment or the situation (or the person) was intense.
It seems silly, but think about it.
Have you ever really been in love?
What does it mean? How does it feel?

Does it feel like someone who sometimes likes you and sometimes doesn't want to be seen with you?
Is it a situation where you have to bend over backwards,
twist, pull, contort your standards and beliefs to fit into a person's life?
Is it worth it, if you do all of those things? If you compromise yourself?

Think about it like this - you only have one self.
One you.
If the one you believe you're in love with understands and values you,
you won't ever have to bargain with your virtues for a place in his/her heart.

Knowing love is the battle people face,
so don't feel like you're alone.
Intensity - touching, kissing, etc - is one thing.
And in so many cases, it doesn't add up to anything as strong or long-lasting as love.
So don't confuse it.
Save yourself the irritation.

When you have love, it is true.
There's no such thing as fake love.
And you'll know when you have it because you'll be valued.
There won't be all of these other people to compete with.
You won't have to mold yourself into anyone or anything else.
Love only asks you to be the best you that you can be.

Love only wants you to be free.

 

 

xoxo Habibti

Fashion Insight: Becoming Your Own Project

Hello Dolls!


I hope everyone is well!
I've been a bit preoccupied with a new project as of late,
and ironically,
the project is me!

That sounds odd, I know.
But my style has changed quite a bit over the past few years
and upon looking at my closet,
I've realized that it's in desperate need of an upgrade.

That being said,
I thought I'd share a few tried-and-true tips on how to go about this process!

Project YOU: 101

1. What do you like? What interests you? What do you find beautiful or unique?
The first step to accomplishing anything is to have a goal -
to know what you want to achieve in the end.
Unsure about what you like? Maybe you have a few ideas, but not a full picture?
Check your resources! Read fashion magazines, visit your favorite stores, look around you ♥.
You'll be sure to have some ideas, even if you come up with more thoughts of what you don't like.
It's a start and you'll know what to avoid once you begin to pick out pieces for yourself.

Magazines can provide a great start

2. No comparisons, please! I can tell you, honestly, that I got a lot of great ideas
from my favorite fashion icons. But after buying a few inspired clothing items
and putting them on, the outcome was nothing like the image I had in my head.
That's ok! You're not meant to look exactly like someone else. If you're inspired by a look
someone else tried and it doesn't turn out how you planned, make it work for you!
If you go into a store and see an outfit you like on a mannequin, don't expect to look like the mannequin. Mannequins are props, placed in stores to give a general idea of a trend or look.
They're put in stores to help you, not hurt you. Don't go scoping out the mannequin,
wishing you had the perfect body. You are YOU. Naturally, everyone notices things about themselves that they'd like to work on. That's ok, too. Everything takes time.

Receive the inspiration, repel the negativity

 

3. Be patient. Creating a style that you love and are comfortable with will take time. Embrace the process. Pick up an outfit when you can or maybe just a few staple pieces to build on. As you continue, you will definitely notice a difference and you'll be proud of the unique style you've created. Remember who you're doing this for - this is about you. Creating something you can be proud of. Have fun with this! It's not supposed to be stressful. It's a labor of love because you value yourself enough to be the best you that you can be ♥.

 

 

Just a note -

If you're like me and it's sometimes easier to think of fashionable ideas for others,

step outside of yourself. Think of yourself as someone you're helping.

Put your ideas on paper, sketch things out, make collages... whatever works for you.

Remember to take the details (such as color, fit, and garment cut) into consideration.

Not all brands fit alike, so try things on if you're unsure.

You want the fit to flatter and compliment your shape, not to send out the wrong messages.

 

 

I wish you all the best and hope you find inspiration!

 

 

xoxo Habibti

 

 

 

None of the images used in this post belong to me